Conditional Love

do you treat yourself with conditional love?

maybe you were raised with that underlying tone …

if you achieve this we will love you, if you get these grades we love & approve of you,

if you perform well at this sport or activity, we will praise & love you … ?

or maybe you’re just a self-bully? placing unfair conditions on “when”you can start loving yourself?

I can give myself nice things when I’m 20 lbs. lighter.

I can join the gym when I look better in my workout clothes.

I can start taking care of myself once the kids are back in school.

I can start taking care of myself once the kids are out of school.

I can start taking care of myself when my finances come to fruition. I can start taking care of myself when somehow miraculously I have more time.

does any of that feel like you?

are those conditions actually fair to your heart & to you?

do you deserve conditional love?

are you alive right now to wait until this or that occurs to treat your body better?

to wait to take care of your feelings for real?

to wait take care of yourself in whatever tiny shape or form?

do you deserve conditional love from yourself while you give golden unconditional love to everyone else in your life?